The Emotional Awareness Questionnaire

A short, private reflection on how you relate to two everyday emotions, anger and sadness. There are no right answers. Read each statement and choose the response that fits you best.

Around 10 minutes. Your responses stay on this page and are not stored or sent anywhere. You will see your results at the end.

Part one

Anger

Think about the last few weeks. Think of the things you find stressful and that cause you to feel frustrated, irritated, or angry. Also think about the people in your life who seem to be responding to you with impatience, frustration, anger, or irritation. Consider the thoughts, images, and basic feelings you have when you faced these angry, stressful emotions in others and in yourself.

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    Part two

    Sadness

    Now think about when you have recently felt sad, downhearted, or dejected. Think about people in your life who have expressed feelings of sadness, depression, or melancholia. What thoughts, images and basic feelings come to mind when you think about the expression of these sad emotions by yourself and by others?

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      This questionnaire is taken from John Gottman (1997), Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.

      Your reflection

      People who are aware of anger and sadness tend to speak about these emotions in a differentiated way. They notice them easily in themselves and in others, feel a range of nuances, and let these feelings be part of life. You can be high in awareness for one emotion and low for the other. Awareness is not fixed, and it can change over time.

      This is a tool for reflection, not a clinical or diagnostic assessment. If anything here stirs something you would like to explore, it can be good material for a conversation.

      Taken from John Gottman (1997), Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.